TIFM Interview with Kylee Morby

Brent

Welcome to season two of the Intentional Family Moment where the co-founders of Coriaria interview a variety of families seeking to live an intentional family life. This episode is sponsored by My Mindful Mat – Your intentional parenting tool. Find out more at MyMindfulMat.com.

In this episode, we speak with Kylee Morby about how a grocery store built her family, and how simple family living leads to the most meaningful moments.

Michelle

What is your family’s story?

Kylee

I am the youngest of five. As the youngest, I had a lot of examples (And bosses is a good way to put it to you know, so many people telling me “Hey, here’S how you should live your life” or whatever).

My parents own grocery store. Well, it actually started with my great grandpa who started a butcher shop, which turned into a grocery store. When I was little, my dad was the director of the grocery store.

I was raised to take ownership in basically everything I do because we had the grocery store and everyone works at the grocery store, cared about the grocery store, would walk down the aisles and make sure everything was straight even if we weren’t working, so that was really ingrained in each of us.

So with my education and my spirituality, basically every part of my life, I was taught to to take ownership and responsibility. When I grew up, I graduated high school and went to Utah State University. And then I went on a mission. I learned so much for my mission, and then when I returned, I actually came back a little bit early because I had to have knee surgery, which at the time was really difficult for me to accept, although I did have a really strong feeling that it was supposed to happen.

When I came back and had my surgery and everything was taken care of, I went back to college and met my husband working at the grocery store, not my parents’ grocery store, but working at a store in Logan. The grocery store is just such a big part of my life. I graduated and Carson, my husband, decided to go into law enforcement. We bought a house, we have a little girl, and then we live on this little farmhouse type deal that try to improve where we can. I recently quit my job as of this week, actually, I’m a stay at home mom. That is basically our family story up to this date.

Brent

Why is it important to you to be a stay at home mom?

Kylee

Part of it is me wanting to make sure that my daughter has a good atmosphere, but part of it also was for me. I love working and using my brain, but a lot of the things that I was doing outside of the home, were things that I cared about because I was supposed to care about them. There are a lot of things at home that I care about much more, and I wanted to focus on those – The first one being my daughter and my husband, and the different activities or things we’re involved in at home.

Michelle

So what kind of activities do you enjoy doing with your family home?

Kylee

Well, we have so many animals. It’s hard to classify as a hobby, but honestly it is because that’s where all of our spare money goes and a lot of our time and effort too.

We have chickens and quail and dogs and ducks. Any time a stray animal is about, we try and find it a home. Just being open to care for animals continues to give us opportunities for more, which sometimes is overwhelming. But I love being the person that can provide that care.

And then we have fruit trees and a garden. I do a lot of handcraft things like embroidery and crochet and sewing. My husband is into woodworking and barbecue and knife making and leather work. Basically, we like to try everything. We’re very much 20% of everything. We have a lot of interests. We like to try things. We like to try and perfect things.

Brent

It is an interesting dichotomy. They say that variety is the spice of life, but on the other hand it takes it takes devotion to sweating the details on one thing in order to make something excellent as well.

Kylee

Yes, yes.

Brent

It’s interesting finding that balance between going wide and going deep.

Kylee

Yeah, and every one of those different facets of your life is is going to try to ask you for 100%. You can’t give 100% to everything.

Brent

No.

Michelle

What do you hope that your daughter learns from these variety of activities that your family does as a hobby?

Kylee

The same thing that I did as a child: To take ownership and responsibility for her own life and every part of it, to care for others, to care for animals, and to find gratitude and purpose in everything. I think sometimes the little things get overlooked in life. I would hope to teach her that so many things can be important, and so many things are important. Sometimes we need to slow down and focus on recognizing their value.

Michelle

So what are some of the best and some of the hardest parts about being married to a police officer?

Kylee

The best part about being married to a deputy 0 so he’s a deputy – is that he’s constantly focused on serving other people and protecting other people. He makes me feel safe, and it makes me feel loved and also very proud of him. I also appreciate that sometimes that helps me to focus more service and caring for other people. We definitely each do that in our own ways. I like to give people little trinkets that maybe we’ve made – a fresh jar of jam – and he likes to make sure that they’re safe and have everything that they need. That’s definitely the best part, is being able to see how he can help and support others. And I’d say he takes a lot of ownership and responsibility that way as well. So that’s what I appreciate about him.

Some of the hard things are graveyard shifts, or sometimes I go to family parties or different events in the neighborhood by myself, which can be uncomfortable or nerve-racking in some instances. And that’s probably the biggest complaint just because when you do have that schedule, it just keeps coming up like every weekend. And sometimes there’s things that he can’t talk about. That can be hard too.

Brent

What does it mean to you to live an intentional family life?

Kylee

An intentional family life to me means remembering that no decision can be made in a silo. Every decision is going to affect every other decision in your future, and you’re probably not the only person who has an idea of what that decision should be. As a family, I think there needs to be a specific focus and purpose that each individual in the family understands and can work towards together so that when you’re on your own, the decisions that you make work towards that. When you’re making larger decisions, you’re working together with that same basic understanding of what you’re working towards. In order to have something be intentional, you have to have a purpose or a goal, something in the future you’re working towards.

In order to be intentional and have that focus, you have to be a guardian of your time and your efforts or else there’s going to be so many distractions and different things going on or different people asking you to make other things more important. So, you have to have that purpose and understanding with each individual in your family and then protect it with your lives and your time and your effort and everything in you.

Brent

We’d like to thank Kylee for joining us on this episode of the Intentional Family Moment. This week we challenge our listeners to think of one of your talents and use that talent to serve someone else.

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